Sure, he might have a nice tool but does he know how to use it? There are tons of things that go into whether or not your bedroom experience is pleasant or not and if you weren’t already aware, this is your wake up call.
Below I am going to go over some of the most common mistakes it seems men tend to make when it comes to how they handle things in the sack. While you might not be making them all, chances are you’re making some of them. How many of these have you experienced firsthand ladies?
1. Getting too worked up and irritated when she isn’t in the mood.
Sure, it might suck to be turned down but making your partner feel bad for not being turned on is not the route to take. You and your lover should both be comfortable enough with each other to be able to say ‘no’ when it is needed. This is a sign that there are a bond and trust between the two of you and that in itself is a wonderful thing.
2. Not putting enough effort into foreplay.
Lots of effort should be going into foreplay. You should be seducing one another long before you reach the bedroom. If you’re just diving in and getting things done, you’re probably not making her as satisfied as you should be. Pay close attention to the things her body likes.
3. Being too cocky and thinking your ‘big tool’ is the main ‘treat.’
Just because your member is long and hard does not mean that other things should be ignored. The act of getting into that mood and the process of being one is marvelous and should be respected. Your member isn’t the main treat, it’s just the cherry on top.
4. Not taking the time to really understand what you’re doing when it comes to pleasing her.
When it comes to pleasing your partner you need to know what you’re doing. Be open and honest with one another. If you like something mention it and encourage her to do the same. You should both be working to understand one another’s turn-ons.
5. Being too worried about your performance.
Don’t let your mind scare you. If you think you’re making a mistake or not being as ‘good’ as you want to be, talk things out. You two can go over the changes that need to be made and reach a place where everyone is getting satisfied properly. This topic isn’t as hard as you might assume it is.
6. Assuming just because she isn’t in the mood means that she’s ‘cheating’ or ‘uninterested.’
Sometimes people are too tired, stressed, angry, etc to get it on and there is nothing wrong with that. Don’t rope your partner into doing things he or she doesn’t want to do. respect is very important when it comes to things like this.
7. Expecting or*asms and intercourse to go hand in hand.
Sometimes we don’t get off and while we can work on that it is something we have to come to terms with. Our partners might not get off every time but as long as things are going properly and everyone is having their needs met within reason this shouldn’t deter you from trying. A lot more than just ‘fitting things in’ goes into a climax and everyone needs to understand that.